by Bill Gracey
When you broke up a girlfriend that it can be not easy to bring her back. I am sure, by now, you have tried every tips in the book, internet or friend’s advice. You’ve bought her flowers, you’ve bought her chocolates, you’ve even stood outside of her window and read her love letters – nothing has worked. You find yourself asking questions like: Am I good enough? Does she still care about me? What I am I doing wrong? You have to understand the problem is not you, the problem is that your approach is not the kind that works with her.
The first thing you need to do, if you have any shot of getting your ex girlfriend back, is to come up with a plan of action. If you are serious about getting her back, then you will need to literally write out the steps you are going to take to do this.
Start out by making weekly goals, such as…Step 1: By the end of this week I will have established physical contact…Step 2: By the end of this week I will have gone on three dates with her…and so forth. Your plan of action will be your battle plan as you get closer and closer to getting her back.
After you have created a plan of action, it is imperative that you make her realize how important she is to you. If you have recently broke up with her, then this step will be a little easier to take. However, if you were the one who got dumped, you are climbing a much steeper mountain. There are a few ways you can get her attention to let her know how you feel. One of which is to write a letter – sounds corny – but trust me, it can work wonders. The reason you write a letter, and not an email or long text message, is because a letter is one of the most tangible and sensitive things you can give a woman. In fact, it is what I like to call, and object of permanence (OOP). Other examples of OOPs are jewelry, stuffed animals, tickets to a concert, and photos – basically anything that she can physically hold that reminds her of you. The more OOPs you send her way, the more likely she will be back in your life.
While you are following your plan of action and dropping some OOPs her way, there are a few things you should do in the meantime. The first, and most important, is to listen. Listen to everything that comes out of her mouth. Even if she is yelling at you, listen. At this point in your relationship you have nothing to lose, and everything to gain, so open your ears and close your mouth. The second thing you should be doing is figuring out why it didn’t work the first time. If you can figure out why something broke, you can fix it and prevent it from breaking a second time. Another basic thing you can do is be pleasant to be around. If you are trying to get back with your ex, you want her to value this new time you are spending with each other.
Going through a break-up can be difficult for anybody. At the very least it makes sense to try to make it work out. People that don’t, often regret it for years (if not the rest of their lives). That is why George Bachmann has created a resource that looks at many ways of trying to bring that special someone back into your life.
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